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A Case Study of a Failed Mediation

Here's the overarching point: Don't play the 'who done it' game. I will use a made up case study to explain my point. Let’s say a...

Nautical 'Leeway' in Relationships and Conflict

‘Leeway’ is a sailing term, and it is a useful concept that we can apply to work relationships and conflict resolution. What does it...

Don't Get Out of Your Comfort Zone!

I’m tired of reading ‘get out of your comfort zone’ posts online as a route to personal development or achieving goals. 🥱 Here’s my 6...

5 Points on our Memory during Conflict

Have you ever found yourself arguing over who said what, or who did what? Here’s 5 interesting points on our memory in conflict...

A Powerful Listening Strategy to Improve Communication

This powerful listening strategy can help your communication. 💡👂 It will help you to deescalate hard conversations, or move from...

Know Your Exits to Ease Your System

When you’re being 'trauma informed', whether towards your own or someone else's, it’s important to clearly and regularly identify exits....

What Does Growth & Change Actually Look Like?

Sometimes psychological change is really obvious, like one day the leaves are green, then the next they are brown. Change and growth can...

Overworking is a Threat Response

We are not born high-achieving, work all-hour, perfectionists. It’s not some core facet of our selfhood. Overworking can be a subtle...

The Fundamental Tension in all Conflict

Attachment = We desire to be more or less connected and feeling safe with another person. Authenticity = We also desire to be more or...

Set Intentions Before You Try and Resolve Conflict

It’s easy to activate someone’s flight/flight/freeze response when your having difficult conversations. Once someone is activated, you’ve...

The Marginal Gains Mentality

Whatever I’m doing on a regular basis is going to have an accumulative effect over time. It’s a commitment to the gradual, the inevitable.

How well do you Trust?

Our experience of trust is not an on or off switch. It’s a continuum. Our ability to trust is effected by our past experiences, and the...

Make your iPhone less addictive

Some of the worlds brightest minds are paid lots of money to find ways of getting us to stay on our phones longer. Our attention is...

Do I have a Chemical Imbalance?

The general public’s belief in that many mental health disorders are caused by an imbalance is still widespread. (1) This post...

One App to Reduce Anxiety

This exercise and app will help to address the biological aspects of heightened states of being. Practices that focus on the body aim to...

Therapeutic Rationale

*This blog is taken from my application for accreditation with the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists. The...

Get Unstuck by Recruiting your Little Professor

This article engages with the parts of us that might feel stuck. By understanding and cultivating a state of being called ‘The little...

Masks and Our Sense of Social Safety

This article explores how poly vagal theory might help to describe what happens when mask wearing gets in the way of social interaction, ...

Cold Water Swimming is Hard. Therapeutic Principles Can Help

How can theories of resistance help us with swimming in cold waters, and life in more general? *This blog was originally published with...

5 Benefits of Email Therapy

Working with a counsellor through email may not be the first thing you would consider when seeking help, but there are some interesting...

MSc Thesis: Logos, Priming and Help Seeking

Below is my video presentation exploring the research I conducted as part of my MSc in Counselling, and an introduction to the origins of...